However, after a few dates, guys get tired of always paying. Money determines what you do for fun, what you eat, where you live, and how you live. I don’t mind a weekend getaway, a hotel room for the night, or a fancy dinner once in a while. I would much rather train or invest money into my business. You have to remember that it’s your journey and your journey alone. Romantic partners will enter, stick around, and then turn into complete strangers. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you. For example, I have a friend who disappears whenever he finds a new girlfriend. He stops working out, doesn’t respond to his buddies, and spends all of his money on her. I’m here to remind you that it’s okay to be a little selfish sometimes. Money is very important when it comes to your relationships. You can ignore it at first, but the topic of money will always creep up into conversation.
I personally appreciate it when the lady at least as the guy. If the female doesn’t offer to at least buy a round of drinks by the fifth date, then you might want to watch out, because she clearly is expecting you to pay for in the long run. These are all sensitive topics when it comes to first date conversations. Most of us don’t have six months into the future and a college fund for the kids. Some guys don’t mind spending their paychecks on dating. I like to pay for dates, but I’m not a sponsor who’s looking to buy gifts and be on the hook for every single expense. Money is the deciding factor in every decision that you make as a couple. I don’t want to spend every single penny on dates and spoiling my girlfriend. Check out this Love and Money episode of #Talking Taboo to hear more perspectives on money and dating…
In a Kansas State longitudinal study across 4,500 couples, financial arguments were cited as the top reason for divorce.
And then there’s the marriages that don’t end in divorce, but the couple is miserable because they constantly argue about finances.
Since he has money, he didn’t mind paying for this surprisingly costly lunch date. He knew that she was taking advantage of the situation.