These feelings may be scary and overwhelming for him.
Truth be told, younger children (under age 10) may feel confused, angry, or sad because they tend to be possessive of their parents.
Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.
Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.
That's not an argument for or against divorce, for or against dating.
Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.