No question about it, these hurtful and painful ways of relating are stressful and exhausting.
How I respond to my partner, how my partner responds to me shapes my emotions in very important ways.
They seem to move quickly to anger, harshness, blame, criticism and hostility. Out-of-control emotions appear all too frequently, dominating the relationship.
Some gay couples have turned to surrogate mothers in countries such as the United States, where the practice is legal in some states, in order to have children.
Until now, however, France has refused to recognise the partner of the biological father as one of the child's parents.
French gay couples with children born to foreign surrogate mothers won a key victory Wednesday, with the country's highest appeals court ruling that the partner of the biological father could adopt his child.